The Exuberant Realist

In today’s era, many shudder and shrug when marriage is mentioned; I included. We avoid family gatherings, run away from our relatives, or pretend we don’t recognise them, all in fear of them bringing up our marriage topics! I don’t know about you, but I have received a good share of advices from my aunties on why marriage is important. That being said, do I fear marriage? I have heard of how both, male and female; complain about their counterparts at the talk of it. That gave me an insight on where the actual problem lies. We are the problem! We try to impose our thoughts, ideologies, mind-set, expectations, and what not, on our partners! Disregarding our own flaws, we blatantly blame the marriage institution. Marriage in itself can never be the problem. We may have seen couples claiming how life has changed after marriage and how much they miss their singlehood. The truth is marriage isn’t changing anyone. Just that the two married individuals had changed. Marriage is

In the undying spirit of trying to appease people around us, often times, we neglect ourselves. We strive to be at our best to impress others and, in reality; life doesn’t require that we be the best, rather just to be our truest selves. Just stop for a few seconds and ponder on how many times you have done something for yourselves without feeling guilty. Try to recall the number of things you have let go just because someone else doesn’t approve of it. “Ewww”, “You use that?”, “What’s wrong with you”, “Yikes!” and many of such remarks that made you question your habits and life choices. People.. Human beings.. Us!! We just have everything under and above the Sun to condemn and disagree upon. Freedom of speech, we say. What a joke?! Some of us just don’t seem to realise that not all situations or phenomenon need our opinion. To the ones that are at the receiving end, please be reminded that many passersby will come across us and try to feed us with their snide commentaries; th

It is one of those days where I would be wide awake in the wee hours despite my body’s screams and screeches of tiredness. Blame my brain. It has a system of its own, totally ignoring the cries of its brothers and sisters! Well, needless to say, my brain triumphed. And, today it envisioned on relationships. Ooohh Aaahhh…. It is very common to be asked about your relationship status when you’re in your 20s. If you’re single (ME!), then put on your armour (I didn’t) because the amount of questions being thrown at you (the WHYs and WHY NOTs) are countless. There are 2 ways you can gain wisdom from in life. ONE; go through something in your life and learn it the hard way, or TWO; learn from the mistakes others made! Luckily, I gained mine mostly from No.2. Although I might not have been in any relationships, let’s just say I’m pretty much of a great observer!    So, what is so special about being in a relationship then? How are we going to make it last? Are we making the righ

It blows my head off that we are almost heading towards the half-year mark. Doesn't time fly? Time simply flew and the olden days' memories stay fresh in our minds. Or rather, dark memories bug our soul! From the title itself you would have figured out that this is going to be either a controversial or a macabre topic.  I am indeed baffled with the multitudinous cases of suicides that made way to the headlines in no time. Of utmost honesty, I have read at least 9 cases of suicides in a matter of 3 months! My mind went on a roller coaster ride with limitless jerks and twists and turns. I started thinking, as always.  Why do people commit suicide?! That very question lead me to an extensive (approximately 2 months) research. After much needed browsing and readings, I would like to equate suicide to GIVE UP! People simply had given up love, hope, joy, trust, job, dignity, and most importantly; life. They get tired of facing failures, agitated with their

Something that I encountered earlier today seems to be eating up my thoughts more than I thought it would! I was walking back home with bags of groceries and witnessed something unusual. A cyclist fell off his bike due to skidding and a pedestrian helped him up. Pretty normal, isn't it? But what really caught my attention was the praises that the public was showering the pedestrian with. The first one said, "Oh, that is so kind of you". The other one nodded and said, "It's hard to find people like you these days". I'm pretty sure the pedestrian wasn't expecting a hail because that person just smiled and walked away!  Well, that just made me curious. Isn't it normal for a person to help out another regardless of what situation there are in? Do we really need praises for being a human? Mother Teresa was not expecting an award for devoting her entire life in helping fellow humans. Did she? Isn't it something that all of us should be doing na

Time and time again, the human mind never fails to allure me. It intrigues me how easily influenced our mind can be. Pessimistic influences from our peers are understandable at times; but we ourselves beguiling it? To say, "That's  beyond my understanding", is an understatement! More than that, it is surprisingly shocking to fathom how self-centred people have nurtured into. People are too beauty conscious and are always in pressure that society imposes. They let others define their beauty and this phenomenon, little by little, embeds into their subconscious mind. The way they look physically is never satisfying and, in turn, they gravitate to wanting more. A self-created image forms in the mind and they consistently keep comparing themselves to it. Flaws are the only trait that they see and calories are the only maths that they mastered in! Well, weighing scales, on the other hand, are the most dreaded equipment. Every time they stood in front of a mirror, they