In today’s era, many shudder and shrug when marriage is mentioned; I included. We avoid family gatherings, run away from our relatives, or pretend we don’t recognise them, all in fear of them bringing up our marriage topics!
I don’t know about you, but I
have received a good share of advices from my aunties on why marriage is
important. That being said, do I fear marriage?
I have heard of how both, male
and female; complain about their counterparts at the talk of it. That gave me
an insight on where the actual problem lies. We are the problem! We try to
impose our thoughts, ideologies, mind-set, expectations, and what not, on our
partners!
Disregarding our own flaws, we
blatantly blame the marriage institution. Marriage in itself can never be the
problem. We may have seen couples claiming how life has changed after marriage
and how much they miss their singlehood. The truth is marriage isn’t changing
anyone. Just that the two married individuals had changed.
Marriage is a beautiful
foundation showcasing a wonderful bond between two selfless, receptive
individuals who are altruistic and would love to grow together without any
expectations, ownership and infidelity.
Every relationship is easy. It
depends on three core points: accepting, supporting and encouraging. That's
really it, isn't it? All we want is for our relationships to be sensible and
balanced. It’s easily achievable by accepting each other as they are;
supporting each other through the foreseeable glitches of life; and by
encouraging each other in growing, achieving, becoming better and being their
truest self!
When a problem arises between the
two of you, don’t distant yourself and end up saying, “Oh, it was a
miscommunication!”. How could it be one when there wasn’t any form of
communication in the first place? Talk it out and move ahead. Don’t try to pick
on the previous mistakes that were dusted off long ago. Also, never drag in
another person into your relationship problems.
Always remember that you both are
two disparate beings that are equal. Connecting with someone on a spiritual
level is the most meaningful interaction one can have. Keep that in mind and
work on yourself not your marriage because a better marriage starts from a
better you!
Hence, I don’t fear marriage but
the individuals. They take each other for granted and their marriage is broken
before they realise it!
For a person that isn’t in a relationship I do write a lot about it, don’t I? Oh well, what can I do if I have too many opinions regarding it?! :D
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