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Relationship 101 (part 2)

In today’s era, many shudder and shrug when marriage is mentioned; I included. We avoid family gatherings, run away from our relatives, or pretend we don’t recognise them, all in fear of them bringing up our marriage topics!

I don’t know about you, but I have received a good share of advices from my aunties on why marriage is important. That being said, do I fear marriage?

I have heard of how both, male and female; complain about their counterparts at the talk of it. That gave me an insight on where the actual problem lies. We are the problem! We try to impose our thoughts, ideologies, mind-set, expectations, and what not, on our partners!

Disregarding our own flaws, we blatantly blame the marriage institution. Marriage in itself can never be the problem. We may have seen couples claiming how life has changed after marriage and how much they miss their singlehood. The truth is marriage isn’t changing anyone. Just that the two married individuals had changed.

Marriage is a beautiful foundation showcasing a wonderful bond between two selfless, receptive individuals who are altruistic and would love to grow together without any expectations, ownership and infidelity.


Every relationship is easy. It depends on three core points: accepting, supporting and encouraging. That's really it, isn't it? All we want is for our relationships to be sensible and balanced. It’s easily achievable by accepting each other as they are; supporting each other through the foreseeable glitches of life; and by encouraging each other in growing, achieving, becoming better and being their truest self!

When a problem arises between the two of you, don’t distant yourself and end up saying, “Oh, it was a miscommunication!”. How could it be one when there wasn’t any form of communication in the first place? Talk it out and move ahead. Don’t try to pick on the previous mistakes that were dusted off long ago. Also, never drag in another person into your relationship problems.

Always remember that you both are two disparate beings that are equal. Connecting with someone on a spiritual level is the most meaningful interaction one can have. Keep that in mind and work on yourself not your marriage because a better marriage starts from a better you!


Hence, I don’t fear marriage but the individuals. They take each other for granted and their marriage is broken before they realise it!


For a person that isn’t in a relationship I do write a lot about it, don’t I? Oh well, what can I do if I have too many opinions regarding it?! :D

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